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Tuesday, 26 May 2015

The Detox Diet: Life Edition

Okay so let me just get this out before we get any further into this: This post is intended to be a massive independent woman kick up the bootay to inspire you to do whatever the hell you want, whenever the hell you want to do it, because basically.. F*** the haters.
I've wanted to write this for quite a while but it's only recently that I feel like I've got a tangible grip on what it is to be sure enough of yourself to make decisions based on your own happiness. 
As much as I'm quite obviously a 'tell it like I see it' kinda gal.. I've also always been somewhat of a people pleaser.. Okay, lets be real here.. I'm pretty much the complete opposite of this but God loves a trier? 
A few things spurred me on to write this today in particular, from a friend that's constantly receiving downright basicbitch hate on her blog, those who have been treated badly in relationships one too many times and my own personal experience with people determined to bring me down and do you know what? I've had enough and I've had enough for you on your behalf too.
It's time to detoxify. 
(Loving how that sentence made me seem like I was some kind of superhero about to do some sick ass trick. Apologies for the disappointment)

Cut The Crap: Okay so this is obvious right? But seriously, I want you to think about crap in it's most philosophical terms (not a sentence I imagined myself ever writing). Writing a list might help - because when does it not? - of all of the negative influences on your life. Bad diet? Toxic friendships? Boring job? Controlling family member? Literally.. write down ANYTHING that you think fits into the bracket of 'crap' and only worry about 'cutting' it once you've got it all down on paper. Quite often, the fear of 'what if's' is what stops us from making the right long-term decision for ourselves so just don't even let your thoughts go that far. The first step is to admit to yourself where the problem areas are.

Shifting Dead Weight: For God's sake, just STOP wasting your time on dick heads. I'm not trying to be harsh here, I love pretty much everyone but sometimes, you'll come across someone that is determined to put you down for their own happiness. Don't be shocked if you find out that the dead weight is actually part of your friendship group either.. it's the weirdest thing isn't it... being friends with someone who's a dick? Why do we do that again? Sometimes it can be hard.. maybe you can't go tee-total because it's just one person in a group that's giving you daggers from across the room, or maybe it's a work colleague that's amazing at feeding everybody else bullsh** about you but is SO NIIIIICE to your face. Either way, there will be ways to distance yourself from these people and put yourself first. Friendship groups develop and people move on to other jobs (and when they do, feel free to go on a rapid twitter/facebook/insta unfollowing spree, no judgement here)

Trust Your Intuition: If something feels wrong.. maybe it is? I know that some things seem so hard to change, and we all get to a point in our lives where we have commitments that might limit our freedom in some respects but I'd say that 99.9% of the time, there's a way out. It could be as simple as the feng shui in your room is a little 'off' and it's making you stressed.. or it could be as huge as never feeling at home in your city/country and every day living in it is eating you up. I can't stress enough how important it is to really listen to what your mind and body is telling you.. We all have varying levels of stress and anxiety and sometimes that can't be controlled by simply running away but y'know what.. sometimes it can and if you've gotta run? Then you better get yourself some comfy kicks cause you can run as far as you need to.

Go Cold Turkey: By this I'm talking about a bit of everything... if being on facebook all the time is stressing you out, delete it from your phone, if people are annoying you , hang out by yourself for a bit. Sometimes I find that life can get 'a bit much' and for me, the only place that can chill me out is the sea. There's something about the open water and it's sheer vastness that makes me feel overwhelmed in the best possible way. If you need to take a trip on your own somewhere then by all means do it. If anyone responds in shock, 'you went on your OWN?' - whatever you do don't take this as the judgement that its intended to be and instead realise that not everyone has the balls to do things on their own sometimes and you are totally awesome and brave for being able to.

Know Yourself: This is a bit of continuation of my previous point really but it's something that I've found to be SO important that I just thought I'd ramble on about it for a little longer. Kapish?
For the longest time, being alone was such a concern for me.. I basically couldn't handle it and would fill my time with so much stuff and people just to avoid my own company. It's taken a long time but I've finally began to accept myself and enjoy my own company. Sure, I still get bored after about 3 seconds on my own but I'd be happy to live alone, I'm happy to travel to places alone and meet new people alone.. and most of all, I don't give a s*** anymore if that makes other people uncomfortable.
I'm done with being judged. I'm done with being tired and I'm done with allowing myself to be brought down with all of the other negative garbage that's going on around me.

Yoga: I really don't need to say anymore than this.

The world is such an amazing place and there's so many opportunities for you out there. You can literally change your entire life if you want to.
Don't let anything hold you back.
Be Brave.
Be You.

I also want to take this opportunity to thank every single one of you, whether you've been around for a while or you're new, whether you'll come back for more or whether you'll never come back again:
Thank You.
You have helped me believe in myself. You have helped me believe in humanity and the positivity that's around if you just open your eyes to it. You have helped me truly believe that I don't need to be held back by anyone including myself, and most importantly..
You have opened my heart.
It's bigger, and stronger, and beating more enthusiastically than ever because despite all of the down days, despite the anxious ones and the lonely ones.. I am so much more open to loving and being loved right now and I couldn't have done it without you.
I never ever thought you could help me in this way.. I hope I can help you too.

X

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11 comments

  1. I really REALLY needed this post today. Thank you Ally. I definitely need a life detox, especially when it comes to relationships and the internet.

    hellomissjordan.com xx

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  2. Absolutely adore this post! I really needed this today so thanks for basically reading my mind! Sick to death of toxic people, the Internet and my own overthinking.

    Lucy x
    Yellowicing.blogspot.co.uk

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  3. There are so many people I need to cut out, I need to make the jump and just finally break the ties but it always feels like I have to keep them there because of years of friendship - yoga, also a winner <3

    You're an awesome lady who I'm glad to call my friend

    Lauren x
    Britton Loves | Lifestyle Food Beauty

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  4. Basically I love you SO much.

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  5. Needed this today, thank you babe <3 gonna go home and make that list tonight and start cutting the bullshit xo
    LJLV | UK Personal Style

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  6. Such a great post, especially the cold turkey point!
    PS In love with that image too, I want to be there!

    www.ohjanuary.blogspot.co.uk

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  7. So so very true. I realised I had to cut the crap a couple of years ago, I was bullied in sixth form and after school I just cut everyone off and started fresh at uni and now I'm a much better person for it, and know that it's important to just cut out toxic people :) and I also swear by yoga! xo
    amber love

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  8. Cutting out the shit people in my life was so difficult as I had become so used to their negativity I thought I needed it. Trusting myself and cutting out the people that made me feel less worthy than them has been the best way in helping me move forward and gain confidence. Also yoga is such a life saver I wish I had this advice 5 years ago!

    http://www.emmainks.com/

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  9. I think sometimes it's hard to even figure out who the shit people are, and then you do and it's like *Sunshine and rainbows I can be happy once more* I used to be such a yoga bunny, but I've got out of it recently, and it's harder to motivate yourself after a month off! Need to start practicing again! Thanks for the motivation! :)


    Milli xx
    artsandgraces.com

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