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Tuesday, 14 April 2015

How To Say Yes When Life Is Saying No

I'm writing this to you but also a little bit (read: a LOT) to myself.. because sometimes we all need a gentle reminder that life is not actually out to get us, and there's always things we can do to make our journey a little easier on the old body and mind. So.. here's some life advice from someone that's not very good at it.

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I'm a firm believer that we accept the love we think we deserve. So.. if you're not getting all of that good kinda stuff then maybe you just need to realise how awesome you are (in a totally non conceited way) and accept that you deserve the good things in life, and love from good people is one of those things.
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Push yourself harder than you ever thought possible. Not having any luck in your chosen career path? Volunteer, take extra qualifications and just keep going. Struggling to learn a skill? Make time for it. Got no motivation to keep up with something? Just get the hell up and do it. Whatever you do, don't give up. You don't want to look back on your life wishing that you'd tried harder or gave more of yourself to something.
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That being said.. Know when to cut yourself some slack. Everybody is different and some people are capable of more before they burn out. Don't compare yourself to these people. Know your own body and mind and don't feel guilty for allowing yourself some time off. Relax.. you'll need your energy for when you're kicking life's ass.
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Do that thing that ignites a fire in your belly like nothing else: whether that be writing, running or singing. Maybe you can't afford to do it full time right now and.. I get it.. you've got bills to pay and food to buy but.. don't ever turn your back on the things that give you life. Without them you are not yourself and it's important to keep these things and carry them with us at all times. They make us special, they make us passionate, and they make us human.
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Get help if you need it. I mean it. This applies to asking a friend for help if you're struggling with homework, all the way up to asking your doctor for help if you're struggling with your thoughts. All too often we can be too proud of our 'doing it on our own'ness and sometimes we just can't and that's okay. We weren't made to be lone wolves (even if you take pride in being one).. everybody bleeds and you are no different so just suck it up and ask for help. It might be the best thing you ever did.
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I've been completely won over by this and would recommend it/force it onto anyone: Practice Yoga.
I don't care if you're the most unflexible potato or if you're the most zen person on the planet.. there is no -one alive that wouldn't benefit from a savasana or two. (Bold statement? I'm sticking with it). Oh.. and don't tell me that you don't have time. There's always time for the things that are important to you.
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Something my Dad once said to me before another horrendously lonely day at school was 'Dont Let the B****rds Grind You Down' Now.. he's not exactly the best at advice to put it lightly but this one time he had it pretty much spot on. There will always be people in your life that just seem to be out to get you, or just put a downer on your day. I don't know why they're there or what their issue is but what I do know is that it's not a reflection on you. Smile sweetly and then move the hell on.. You've got bigger fish to fry.
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Sometimes, all we need to do is just step outside. It's amazing how much difference a breath of fresh air can make to any crushing kind of situation. My personal favourite is to seek out the sea and just watch it do it's thing. It's not that easy for me as I'm pretty sure I live in the furthest possible location to the sea in the UK. Nevertheless.. I know that that's my place. Find yours and visit it as regularly as you can.
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Sometimes we can be so set on getting what we want out of life that it's hard to be open to change. The thing is though.. nothing happens all linear like it does in films. People have failures and set-backs, and sometimes.. no matter how much it feels it.. it's just not the right time. Those that are able to adapt to these changes and still keep going are the ones that are able to get back on track when life gives them an opportunity to.
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Annd finally, something that I think we all need to hear from time to time: It's not too late.
Whilst you've still got life left in you, there's still chance to seize the day and do whatever it is that you need to do to feel whole. Get out there and do it. There's nothing stopping you now.

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10 comments

  1. LOVED this post Ally, it's always amazing to find something that makes your passion and heart race! I definitely need to cut myself some slack but I'm always scared I'll lose my mojo.

    Lauren x
    Britton Loves | Lifestyle Food Fashion Beauty - www.brittonloves.blogspot.co.uk

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  2. Fantastic post Ally :D I always feel like this especially when life says 'no' basically constantly! Thank you!

    hellomissjordan.blogspot.co.uk xx

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  3. I really needed this post today! Thank you, you've put a smile on my face!

    Lucy x
    Yellowicing.blogspot.co.uk

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  4. Such positive words! My heart definitely got some sunshine after reading your post! x
    FOUND SOME PAPER BLOG

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  5. One really nice tool for motivation I heard recently (on a podcast), is just go for 10 minutes and do the thing (whatever it is, exercise, whatever). If you start and do it for 10 minutes and still want to quit, then quit. But just starting is usually the most difficult part.

    Erin | Erin and Katherine Talk Beauty

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  6. I loved this post, I could really do with some extra motivation right now. Need to keep these things in mind because they are so important.

    Bethan Likes

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  7. I definitely want to start practicing yoga. I have wanted to try it for agggesss now, I think it's about time I did! This is such an inspiring post, love it!

    The Velvet Black // UK Style & Beauty Blog

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  8. I feel like it should be baz luhrmann narrating this, like that Sunscreen speech/song, that would make it perfect. Bloody love yoga me, there's always time!

    Buckets & Spades

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  9. I'm saving this post! Needed this today, been feeling so down on myself lately like I'm not doing enough work or blogging or anything. I need to enjoy things more. Get help if you need it is brilliant advice, I always tell that to people! And I'm pretty good at asking for help now or solving problems than I used to be :) my dad sounds a lot like your dad haha! I'm sure he's said that exact phrase to me before :')
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